Events to Sanctuary
General November 30th, 2009
Events in life come and go. Some events are better than other events. We never know when events will happen in life. Part of my job is waiting for events to happen. When events happen, they have to be dealt with. Sometimes the events are handled well and at other times they are not. Events have many external factors that can produce a good ending or a bad ending. These events can affect one person, multiple people and/or an entire region of people. Events can leave many questions unanswered. We can not ignore events. When events are neglected or tried to be forgotten, the longer and more severe they can become.
How do you handle and share events? Of course the good events are easy to share as one can barely contain themselves to tell someone the good news. What about the bad events? Suddenly we aren’t so eager to share. One tends to drift off quietly to try and deal with the bad event. We have friends, family, support groups, public services and ministers to contact. It seems natural for people to feel as if tho they are burdening others with their events, so they tend not to. There is also people out there that tend to abuse the system in the opposite way and cause a hinder to the system. They tend to cry wolf and than refuse all help in repeated attempts. In either event, it’s another event just waiting to happen.
When bad events happen around me and I am involved, I like anyone else, need to put closure on it. I find that I need some way for it all to make sense so the brain doesn’t replay and re-question everything. Give me the facts of the events and explain to me the unknown or parts of the event that I don’t understand and I can lay it to rest. My mind will analyze an event over and over and come up with “what if” and it’s those “what ifs” that I need to resolve. A “what if” can prevent me from being at ease for a long long time. I usually will try to seek out the answers to the “what ifs” to put it at ease. The mind is a very powerful thing and can be very stubborn in it’s ways. Usually I have to have my time to absorb an event. It’s usually overwhelming at first and I don’t grasp everything right away. I need to let it sink in and digest it. Sometimes I can than lay the event to rest by doing just this. If I can’t, than I will gather the unknown and try and seek the answers from others. This can lead me to being able to lay the event to rest as I learn more. I will run into events or parts of an event that can’t be explained or understood. I have to live with it as frustrating as it may be.
In the mean time of trying to find peace with events, I like to grab the camera and dog and head out to find something to photograph. Walking through the country side or driving around the country side lets the body refresh itself. Last Friday, I did just this. The picture in this post is not the first time I had photographed it. I just happened to come upon it again when the sun was behind it and was causing it to glow of a wonderful warm color that made me feel warm inside. This is what I needed to find and I had no idea I was even looking for something, but once I saw this, I knew it was what I needed. Sometimes I need big signs to see something. I also had dear friends that asked and expressed feelings. I still have questions, but I am at a much better level of peace with it all. I can let most of the “what ifs” go now. For others, the healing process will be much longer and I hope they can come to peace with it some day. One day at a time, one foot in front of the other.